Pixie Isobella

This is going to sound silly, given I have so many beautiful friends and followers who are older than me.

But anyway, I turned forty over three years ago now and, while I still feel just as young and healthy as ever, that number did something weird with my writing.

Unless there was a plot reason not to, I’ve always made my heroines roughly about the same age as me.

But forty felt so… unsexy. Look, if I’m honest, it probably was in part a neurodivergent reaction:

But the 30s are such pretty numbers!

And:

40 is just so square and unappealing!!

I’m turning 44 in 2026, which — as a number — is just about as square and unappealing as you can get.

But that wasn’t the main thing.

I’ve hardly ever read a female romance with a character older than 20s or 30s, and even then, they often fall into certain tropes that I don’t always relate to.

I’ve been struggling with this thing in my own brain. I didn’t want to just write stories about younger women. I wanted to write stories about women in their 40s — and even older and wiser — featuring in the messed up shit that I write.

To be fair, I feel I’ve been writing a lot of breeding stories recently, and unless it’s a sci-fi or fantasy world, maybe there are some realistic age limits around that. Or maybe I need to write the sci-fi and fantasy stories where it can happen anyway 😀.

One of the things I love about being an active part of my local kink scene is that kinksters are all ages.

If I go to a party, I’ll see as many as 2 or 3 older female Dommes being worshipped and kicking ass. I’ll see at least one older submissive woman having full-on sex and loving every second of it. The party will be full of older female and femme people floating around looking hot and sexy. And the men, non-binary peeps and other women with them will be really enjoying them too.

It reassures me. In a world where older women aren’t really meant to exist and don’t necessarily meet the unreasonable beauty norms of this absurd world we live in, it reassures me that when I’m 60 or 70, I’ll still be having fun and still be writing hot fun as well.

Anyway, this was really just a long way to say two things.

Firstly — and most importantly — readers older than me, especially women or femmes: I see you, I love you and you’re glorious.

Secondly — also importantly — I’ve got some stories coming with older female protagonists.

One of the main barriers I had to overcome actually wasn’t feelings about age or bodies. I’m actually pretty OK on that score. Most of my close female friends are in their 40s and they are hot as fuck.

It was finding the stories where older women turn up. Because we’re older and wiser, we’re better at our professions now… We don’t take shit anymore like we used to — most of the time, at least. And we do different things — sometimes — and maybe hang out in different places, even those of us who don’t have kids.

So I’ve got a story coming up in which a woman — Rosamund — tries to escape her shitty job and her ex by moving into the house she’s inherited from her uncle and father. It’s in a tight-knit, wealthy community, and she immediately feels she doesn’t belong there. And then there are dark, non-con, sexy, free-use shenanigans, because, of course, there are.

I’ve got some other ideas floating around my head — stories set in real places, like cafes and libraries and public transport and hotels and the workplace.

It’ll be fun to see where this takes me! (I still have too many stories. Far, far too many stories. But that’s a subject for another day 😀)

Send me a message or pop something into the comments if you have any thoughts about what I’ve written here.

If you’re a woman or femme person, I’d be particularly interested in what type of scenes or scenarios you find hot for heroines in their 40s and older — or I’m also interested if this is only a problem I experience, because that would also be reassuring in a different way 💖

Have fun, take care and stay safe!
xx Pixie 💖